Comments on: Being rejected is fantastic. Seriously.

By: Matilda Jane

Matilda Jane — Fri, 23 Feb 2007 13:39:34 +0000

Nicely put. Inspirational. You should get one of those posters like the one with the hanging cat. Tis true, though… what do you have to lose besides a little dignity? Like a starfish arm, the dignity will grow back. Regret sticks around like a hippie in your basement.

By: Daniel

Daniel — Fri, 23 Feb 2007 14:06:10 +0000

I can see the poster now: A guy getting slapped by a girl.
Rejection
———-
What’s a little dignity worth over a good story?
or…
Something along those lines.

I could also see a good one being made from your line about Regret, Matilida.

By: generation next

generation next — Fri, 23 Feb 2007 14:23:43 +0000

“Like a starfish arm, the dignity will grow back. Regret sticks around like a hippie in your basement.”

Nice metaphor, Matilda Jane.

By: Virginia Belle

Virginia Belle — Fri, 23 Feb 2007 15:30:57 +0000

i love MJ. this is why she is one of my friends. In real life! she is good at those kinds of things.

so much, in fact, that i have nothing to add here. which is unusual for me.

good advice. i wish more guys followed it.

sometimes, i dig up enough courage to smile and say hi to hotties. but i gotta admit, i’d prefer they approached me.

i would have laughed at the line, btw. that’s good.

By: Justin

Justin — Fri, 23 Feb 2007 16:03:19 +0000

Haha, oh Virginia Belle: who says this advice is only for guys?

By: Dating Dummy

Dating Dummy — Fri, 23 Feb 2007 16:40:10 +0000

Being rejected builds character. And ironically, more confidence. But it’s always that first one that’s the hardest!

It’s roll call time - let us know how you did!

By: Abbey

Abbey — Fri, 23 Feb 2007 17:15:09 +0000

Recently stumbled onto your site. I hadn’t thought about this quite the way you put it.

Given that most of my hit-on opportunities are in the proximity of others that I know…I hesitate for the sake of the on-going teasing for potential rejections.

However, maybe I’ll take more advantage of anonymous hitting-on opportunities.

By: Justin

Justin — Fri, 23 Feb 2007 18:04:09 +0000

Oh! Abbey! I didn’t even write about that part!

I totally know where you’re coming from. I used to feel the same way. But here is a thing I have learned about that: EVERY time I have hit on a girl in front of my friends they have been impressed that I could even walk over and say anything, and they have not teased me at all. Well, almost every time.

Anyway, keep that in mind next time.

By: Rachelle

Rachelle — Fri, 23 Feb 2007 20:38:58 +0000

For me, the laxative aisle miight just be a place where I’d act like I was just wandering.

But this post definitely makes me think.

By: Browneyedgirlie

Browneyedgirlie — Mon, 26 Feb 2007 03:04:41 +0000

I think you’re right. Because sometimes, rejection leads to wonderful things (read: a handsome, funny man) you wouldn’t ever have expected…

By: Sumo

Sumo — Mon, 26 Feb 2007 21:05:25 +0000

So, you ever, uh, get that constipation problem solved?

By: BCOL

BCOL — Wed, 28 Feb 2007 03:35:39 +0000

That’s why I don’t envy boys… I’ll appreciate the attempts of approach much more now.

By: Justin

Justin — Wed, 28 Feb 2007 04:11:00 +0000

BCOL: who says this post can’t apply to you, as a female, just as much?

By: BCOL

BCOL — Wed, 28 Feb 2007 18:56:49 +0000

Justin: Even though we’re in the 21 century, there’s still a natural tendency for guys to be the pursuer, no? Yes, presumption on my part. I’m a shy little wall flower. Far from ever being a pursuer. So sue me! :o)

By: Justin

Justin — Wed, 28 Feb 2007 19:03:10 +0000

Ha! Oh, right. Look at me. You can tell from my archives that I’m a tiger ready to pounce. Heh.

This is interesting to me. I need to think about this a little bit.

By: jb

jb — Sun, 29 Apr 2007 01:53:04 +0000

Be careful if you do get rejected, talk about it. I didnt, and twelve years later spend three years talking to a phyc. Talking is the answer.
Good luck.

By: Amy

Amy — Tue, 08 Jan 2008 20:50:34 +0000

I LIKE this. Such a humorous approach to initiating and approaching response. It is wisdom for girls as much as it is guys, and I, as a woman, have always believed in making things happen. I, in fact, went so far to propose to my husband first (although it was in Spanish, so he was forced to translate) and my girlfriends in high school always drove me nuts with the “OH-we-think-he-is-so-hot-but-we’ll-wait-for-him-to-approach-us”‘ stalemate.

Yours is refreshing because it’s the attitude I wished existed in a lot more people in the dating scene. Not only that, but you’re right about having a story to tell. It is its own therapy in minus-time. Call it superfasttherapy.